You’ve finally got your ADHD diagnosis, or you’re still waiting, months, maybe years. In the meantime, you are still expected to function: to show up to work, to manage your relationships, to keep on top of admin, to ‘get better’.
There is a lot of talk about access to diagnosis, about waiting lists and medication. We talk far less about what happens next, or in the meantime.
A diagnosis explains your past and present. It doesn't, however, automatically change your present or future. You might feel relief, grief, anger, and then Monday comes: the same inbox, the same relationship tensions, the same patterns you’ve been stuck in for years.
Coaching can be transformative at this stage. Not because it fixes you, but because it helps you understand your patterns, build systems that actually work for your brain, and untangle the emotional weight that often sits underneath ADHD.
Whether you’re an adult with ADHD or the partner of someone with ADHD, you want things to feel calmer, fairer, and less exhausting. You want a life that is steadier and more manageable.
I offer practical, forward-looking coaching designed to help you manage everyday challenges and create meaningful change.
People often arrive feeling exhausted, stuck, or quietly at breaking point. Maybe they are ashamed, overwhelmed, and tired of disappointing themselves and others.
With coaching, what usually changes is not everything at once, but enough that life starts to feel workable again.
Clients notice:
Less emotional reactivity and fewer blow-ups or shutdowns
A calmer nervous system and more space to think clearly
Clearer boundaries and fewer unspoken expectations
Less resentment and less over-functioning
More honest conversations that do not immediately escalate
A stronger sense of self-trust and emotional stability
Daily life feeling more predictable and less crisis-driven
This work is about moving out of survival mode and into something that feels sustainable.
This is not about fixing anyone. It is about stopping the slow erosion that happens when ADHD is misunderstood and unmanaged.
Start with a free 30-minute online discovery session. We’ll discuss what you’re finding challenging, explore your needs and your goals, and I’ll explain exactly how coaching works.
Coaching is built on trust, without it coaching does not work. So, on the call I won't ask you to sign up to coaching sessions. You need time to think. I will send you more information after the call and ask you to contact me when and if you are ready. No sales, and no pressure.
If you are an adult with ADHD
You might be here because:
You are constantly behind, despite trying really hard
You feel like you are always letting people down
Your partner does not trust you to follow through anymore
You are exhausted by shame, emotional overwhelm, and self-criticism
You know what to do, but cannot make yourself do it consistently
What you want is not more tips. You want:
To feel like a capable adult again
To stop apologising all the time
To be trusted, not managed
To understand why things are hard without hating yourself for it
If you are the partner of someone with ADHD
You might be here because:
You are carrying the mental and emotional load for both of you
You feel resentful, guilty, and tired all at once
You have become the manager, not the partner
You feel invisible, even though you are doing everything
You do not know what is reasonable to expect anymore
What you want is not just more understanding. You want:
Your energy back
Clear boundaries without constant guilt
Less resentment and emotional firefighting
To feel like yourself again, not just the responsible one
You have probably already tried:
Planners, reminders, apps, and systems
Reading about ADHD and executive function
Being more patient, more organised, more understanding
Therapy that gave insight but not relief
Carrying more in the hope things would stabilise
Most approaches fail because they focus purely on behaviour without also addressing the emotional cost.
Clients work with me because:
I name what others may soften or avoid
I do not blame, but I do not minimise
I centre wellbeing for both people, not just symptom management
I help people stop coping and start changing what is unsustainable
Most importantly, I help people feel less alone with this.
I work with:
Adults with ADHD who want to feel more grounded, capable, and emotionally regulated
Partners of people with ADHD who want to stop over-functioning without abandoning the relationship
Neurotypical adults struggling with executive function challenges
Through:
One-to-one coaching
Group coaching programmes
A structured online course for partners of adults with ADHD
This work is practical, emotionally honest, and grounded in real life, not ideals.
You don’t need a formal diagnosis to benefit from coaching. If issues like focus, organisation, or emotional regulation are holding you back, we can work together to find what truly helps.
"I cannot recommend Jay highly enough. His extremely supportive and positive approach put me at ease from the start, and he was able to offer clear and practical advice specifically tailored to my circumstances."
"Our sessions left me feeling far more confident and optimistic about my ability to manage neurodiversity-related issues and to make realistic changes to benefit both myself and those closest to me."
My new book was written especially for the often-forgotten partner. The one who may feel unseen, overwhelmed, or exhausted. Inside, you’ll find validation, practical tools, and insights to help you thrive alongside your ADHD partner.
Available on IngramSpark in paperback or on Amazon in paperback and e-book.
I have designed this new course to help transform your relationship in 8 Weeks. You do not have to read the book to start the course!
Please watch this short video where I explain the details of the course.
See more details on the Course Page, or sign up now and start immediately.
Start with a free 30-minute online discovery session. We’ll discuss what you’re finding challenging, explore your goals, and I’ll explain exactly how coaching works - with no pressure and no obligation.
