Coaching ADHD Partners

Being in a relationship with someone who has ADHD can sometimes feel confusing, overwhelming, or emotionally draining. You may feel unheard, misunderstood, or like you're shouldering more than your fair share of the responsibility. You’re not alone. Gaining a deeper understanding is the first step toward building a more balanced, connected, and supportive partnership. 
 

Coaching Approach

My coaching approach follows three key steps:
Step 1: Gain insight into how their brain works - and how it impacts your relationship
Step 2: Learn effective strategies for communication and collaboration
Step 3: Focus on self-care, building support, and creating a path for both of you to thrive

This isn’t counselling - whether individual or couples therapy - it’s coaching: a practical, forward-focused approach.
 

Coaching Themes

Coaching themes often include a mix of guidance and personal reflection, tailored to your experience:
Understanding ADHD & Your Relationship

• How the ADHD brain works
• Executive function challenges: the "why" behind the "what"
• Emotional regulation & Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)
• Masking: the hidden effort your partner may be making
• Common relationship struggles rooted in ADHD
• Separating symptoms from intent
• Recognising your partner’s ADHD strengths

Communication & Collaboration Tools

• Proactive communication & active listening
• Expressing needs clearly
• Navigating conflict & managing interruptions
• Shared memory aids & task collaboration
• Reinforcing positive cycles
• Problem-solving as a team

Caring for Yourself & Thriving Together

• Validating your own experience and emotions
• Setting boundaries & protecting your energy
• Building empathy and managing resentment
• Developing a support system
• Addressing the ‘parent-child’ dynamic
• Reconnecting and rediscovering joy

How is Coaching Helpful?

You could read about this in a book, but the power of coaching lies in its personalisation. It's tailored specifically to you: your experiences, your skills, your knowledge, your schedule, and your self-care. Coaching helps you apply insights in real time, with tools and strategies that fit your life. It’s a practical, goal-oriented process that focuses on progress, not perfection. You’ll gain clarity, build skills, and take actionable steps toward a more balanced, collaborative relationship - supported by someone who understands both the dynamics of ADHD and the realities of daily life.
 

For more information about neurodiversity visit NHS Wales. For ADHD visit the Healthline or NHS.